Do you feel like you are living under a rock? Would you rather watch TV than hang out? Do you consider yourself as an introvert and struggle on how to connect with anyone?
Don’t worry – there is absolutely nothing wrong with you. Different personalities abound on this planet, and the chemistry does not always work for everyone. Fortunately, connecting with anyone is not an innate ability or hereditary. You too can learn how to connect with anyone.
Fortunately or unfortunately, personal relationships are what rule the world. We often hear people say that it doesn’t matter what you know – but who you know. This is definitely true on so many layers, and successful personalities like Warren Buffett and Tony Robbins are strong advocates of this phrase.
4 tips on how to connect with anyone anywhere.
1. You Don’t Get A Second Chance To Leave A First Impression
Studies have shown that winning a person’s hearts is largely dependent on their first impression of you. You do not get a second chance to leave a strong first impression – and rightly or wrongly, people decide if they like or hate you within the first seven seconds of meeting you.
This may sound terrifying especially for introverts but being genuine and cognizant of your speech express, body language and tone of voice are the focal points of leaving a first impression. Speak in a neutral tone and avoid strong language with excessive hand movements. These are instant turn offs. Instead, listen to others carefully when they speak, maintain the eye contact, and nod periodically.
2. Do Not Take It Personally
Some people are just a little rude or weird and managing them can be tricky. For example, if you are in a conversation and someone interrupts it – let them have the stage. Some people need relate the conversation to their life to feel engrossed in the conversation. Do not feel offended that you are interrupted. Instead, listen and understand the connection the other party is making. In short, focus on others and people will eventually notice that and appreciate you more.
3. Have A Plan
What? How does having a plan for connecting with someone help?
Trust me, it does. Especially if you are someone who gets stage fright and freezes up when conversations start. That is why you should plan your questions in advance . Even when you do not know how to react to a conversation, you can slyly change the topic and be confident in talking about it.
You can do this only by asking the right questions, so plan on having three open ended and thought provoking questions for each situation. This will do the trick for most situations so, get your notebook and start thinking what you are going to ask.
4. Pay Ridiculous Attention To What People Talk About
This is a no-brainer. Paying attention is the fundamentals in mastering connecting with people. Great opportunities and friendships develop when we pay attention.
If you do not know the person you are meeting beforehand, try learning about what business they started, what sports they like etc. The bottom line is to always pay attention to what the other person is speaking about passionately or their interests.
5. Remain Unforgettable
In order to really stand out and learn how to connect with anyone – you must do the little subtle things that most people do not even think about. That can mean sending birthday cards, mailing them your favorite book with a signed personal note, sending a Christmas card and being genuinely helpful. You will be amazed how these things, although simple, can be touching and memorable for them.
It all boils down to helping others and spending your time wisely. If you think how you can help people – you will build bridges, not acquaintances. This will enable you to even find the love of your life – or the perfect match for a business partner.