If you adopt a mentality of perfectionism in any area of your life and feel miserable about your life, these simple tips will help you to overcome perfectionism.
There is a great saying by Edith Schaeffer that goes like this:
“People throw away what they could have by insisting on perfection, which they cannot have, and looking for it where they will never find it.”
Yes – perfection is among the most common challenges that people face – and try to master. It is also a topic many people have trouble with. They say ‘no one is perfect’, but we all work towards becoming the most perfect version of ourselves.
But hey, did you know that perfectionism is an issue that can hold you back in life – and struggle you against achieving and finishing what you want? Instead of helping you be a better person, perfectionism can turn into an obsessive, compulsive disorder, in turn ruining your life and your soul.
In fact, perfectionism can be your main enemy even when you are getting started with your dreams. Draining your self-esteem and getting you stuck in a negative spiral where it is harder and harder to move forward is how it often starts. Therefore, perfectionism is a tough pill to swallow – and one you should puke.
So, how have the greatest minds overcome perfectionism and how can you live a better life, satisfying yourself against the destructive and distracting thought habits?
If you are struggling with perfectionism, I’ve created this in-depth guide to help you overcome perfectionism.
4 simple tips to overcome perfectionism
Hey, You Are Good Enough!
No one likes to hear the term ‘good enough’. But trust me, it is better than ‘perfect’. Whether it is a project you are working on, your appearance or habits, you should pick ‘good enough’ over ‘perfect’ 101 times out of 100. Why?
No – it is not an excuse to slack off. It is you realizing that there is something called good enough and you can even be better than it rather than striving to be perfect and always winding up behind. Perfectionism can be a healthy trait. The problem comes when it’s taken to the extreme. So, finding a balance for yourself can do you wonders and help you do good work without overdoing anything.
Wanting To Be Perfect So Bad…? Stop – You Can Hurt Yourself!
Thinking of perfection at all times can hurt your own self-esteem and confidence. Perfectionists often follow a pre-determined plan. They get upset easily when unexpected construction has blocked off a path or the road has just disappeared altogether.
You must realize this and overcome perfectionism before other people get hurt by your myths about perfection as well. Do NOT watch too many movies and listen too many songs about the world telling you to be perfect or live in the world full of fantasies. In fact, it is very easy to be lulled into the dreams of perfection – but is it easy to build your own?
No – and that is how your process should start.
When perfectionism kicks in, you should know that it is a process that may be too suffering, stressful and bad for you and the people around you. It may also harm or possibly lead you to end relationships, jobs, projects etc. just because you think ‘you are perfect and out of this world’ or ‘good enough’ is never enough for you.
You Are Human…Just Like Everyone Else
We are all born with an equal chance to be successful, famous or popular. However, all of these values are nothing close to perfection, which is a myth that could not be reached. No entrepreneur succeeds without having failed in some form or manner first. Everyone and everything has flaws and things do not always go as planned. Although they can improve, they can never be perfect. In reality, everything happens in progression. By understanding this basic will help you to overcome perfectionism that could possibly lead you to the path of depression.
Compare Yourself ONLY To Yourself
If you tend to compare yourself to other people, you are shooting in the dark.
There will always be people ahead of you and behind you – but that is only your comfort zone. Whether you think this may motivate you or make you feel better, it is still a perfectionism myth.
Which is why you must learn to compare yourself to yourself only – and no one else. See and measure your improvements, how far you have come, look back to what you have overcome and appreciate every version of you.
In the end, focusing on what you have done and are doing will do you better than anything related to ‘chasing’ perfectionism. So, do what YOU always think is the right thing to do and you will shape up your own environment with achievable goals and realistic standards.
In short, doing the best you can at every moment as opposed to perfectionism is what will make your life awesome. So, ditch the need for perfectionism once and for all!